Note: This was supposed to be a comment for someone's Blog.
People avoid Coeducation. Why? They think their kids will get spoiled .. The fact is in Coeducation boys and girls are trained to handle and respect each other but do we see that ? NO.
Is is Taboo to talk about love, rape, Sexual crimes, and about the Opposite sex in most of our families and if kids do talk, parents not only scold them but they forbid them to talk about such things at all saying " Bacha Bighaar raha hai " Does it help ? NO
Movies, dramas Show Glamour, the joys of love. To a person who is not even allowed to talk about the opposite sex openly in his house can he actually know what love is ? ,, He will think it's only about fooling about with each other?
Boys and girls are not allowed to see their friends belonging to opposite sex ? Do they Stop ? No! They feel more thrill in it and they don’t give their parents a chance to guide them what is wrong or right, and even if they will what will be the result .. We all know the answer for that ..
If a sexual crime is commuted with a girl we all say " Larki Kharaab hoo gaee " , It's all her fault and Now get her married as soon as possible ?. And we have good reasons not to file legal charges against the criminal. Sadly even I will not recommend it.
If a child sexual abuse takes place the blame goes to the kid, he/she is beaten up and is made to feel ashamed about it.
Today boys are physically and mentally abusing their girlfriends because they know their Girlfriend will not say a word to anyone, she will be too ashamed to tell her story.
That is why they are taking advantage of girls, teasing them, Haunting them, stalking them and abusing them.
There is a need to provide securities to women,
There is a need to educate people, tell them what is right what is wrong,
There is a need for a strong and foolproof legal structure against horrifying crimes like Rape, Child sexual abuse, manhandling of women, Honor killing, Forced marriages and other such crimes.
These crimes are very serious offences in Islam as well. I wonder why no one talks about these things openly?
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I neither support, nor I'm against co-education.. so long as ppl know their limits, perfect.. though what concerns the parents is that since the social crimes are not known to kids, someone can abuse/misuse their child..that is what scares the parents.. and often the girls.. because where we live telling kids how to protect themselves is kinda not right..
No one talks about them, because no one had been told by their parents in their youth. hence, they donno how to begin.. if ur childs gonna learn all the weird talk, why not thru parents, why thru friends??
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You are right if these words will come from the parents they will work positively but when they come from friends it often spell's disaster.
Today teens are exposed to an evolving culture, this culture is being imposed upon us by our media, Indian movies and drams. Our media is airing a culture which is not ours and people are following it just for the sake of becoming (superficially) Posh, Cool of fashionable. They think it a society symbol to have a boyfriend, or to smoke or speak English. And to be a part of High society which is shown by our Media they become fashionable, they learn to speak English and they start dating. To be fashionable they need expensive things and because there parents cant afford expensive clothing, colognes/perfumes for them they turn to unfair means. One of my neighbors 15 year spent Rs.5000 on the shopping for a date and on valentines day he bought 5 different expansive gifts for his different girlfriends, his father is an Urdu teacher in a collage, where did he got all this money ? Who knows..
If you visit Safari park you will see at least 30 - 40 young couples, some hide there face in their boyfriend's lap and some behind a naqaab. What are they doing ? It that correct ? I am sure their parents told them that having boys as friends is really bad but they did exactly the opposite. Why ? If you are a student, and it’s a girls school and the tuition you go to is girls only as well and you are not even allowed to use internet and you are not allowed to visit your friends alone then you may not interact with boys at all and then it is correct to limit the amount of the knowledge you have about the opposite sex, but is that possible ?
if the answer is no then we should tell our children where the limit is, we should not stop them from having friends of the opposite sex. Parents should know where there children are and they should be open mined abut a gathering of friends.
Today we are actually forcing our children live a double standard life. We are so afraid of people that we don’t say this is right or wrong we just say " Oohh !! What will people say " to a young mind it spells " If they don’t know it is all correct " .. This is where the fault is .
You are right if these words will come from the parents they will work positively but when they come from friends it often spell's disaster.
Today teens are exposed to an evolving culture, this culture is being imposed upon us by our media, Indian movies and drams. Our media is airing a culture which is not ours and people are following it just for the sake of becoming (superficially) Posh, Cool of fashionable. They think it a society symbol to have a boyfriend, or to smoke or speak English. And to be a part of High society which is shown by our Media they become fashionable, they learn to speak English and they start dating. To be fashionable they need expensive things and because there parents cant afford expensive clothing, colognes/perfumes for them they turn to unfair means. One of my neighbors 15 year spent Rs.5000 on the shopping for a date and on valentines day he bought 5 different expansive gifts for his different girlfriends, his father is an Urdu teacher in a collage, where did he got all this money ? Who knows..
If you visit Safari park you will see at least 30 - 40 young couples, some hide there face in their boyfriend's lap and some behind a naqaab. What are they doing ? It that correct ? I am sure their parents told them that having boys as friends is really bad but they did exactly the opposite. Why ? If you are a student, and it’s a girls school and the tuition you go to is girls only as well and you are not even allowed to use internet and you are not allowed to visit your friends alone then you may not interact with boys at all and then it is correct to limit the amount of the knowledge you have about the opposite sex, but is that possible ?
if the answer is no then we should tell our children where the limit is, we should not stop them from having friends of the opposite sex. Parents should know where there children are and they should be open mined abut a gathering of friends.
Today we are actually forcing our children live a double standard life. We are so afraid of people that we don’t say this is right or wrong we just say " Oohh !! What will people say " to a young mind it spells " If they don’t know it is all correct " .. That is where the fault is .
Precisely our media which has been given khuli chhoot by mush. is disastrous..
And if there is one thing I particularly dislike it is giving English the hi fi status it owns today..how pathetically ppl oft laugh at those who cant speak properly..
I personally feel that once u distance the kids from opp. gender, its rite, while growing up that is, then they really learn their limits.. when they are 14 u don ahve to tell them what to do, they'll know.. I admit that in todays age, distancing kids is very hard, no good separate schools.. though once they pass thru separate schools, kids do get an undersatnding, then off to uni, they should know limits..
inshaAllah khayr for all kids..
btw, that 15 yr old celebrating valentines, :O how dumb of him..
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